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Information related to "Grief" and "Bereavement"
Previous sample Heritage newsletter articles
A helpful glossary of terms and vocabulary
Contact information relating to "Genealogies"
Various internet resources and web site addresses
 

Grief and Bereavement
SUPPORT DURING A DIFFICULT TIME

"Grief is a process, not a destination. Grief includes the feelings experienced after a serious loss or death. These feelings are normal and usually take take longer to pass through than most people realize."
GRIEF EDUCATOR, PATRICIA ZALAZNIK

At this difficult time in your life, you may need to be with others who have had the same experience and receive help from those skilled to be of assistance. As part of its commitment to the healing process, The Catholic Cemeteries hosts a workshop each November to assist grieving persons in preparing for the holiday season.

Our cemetery newsletter, Heritage, will be sent to you each spring and fall. Articles on grief and grief support highlight each issue of the publication.

You may also receive a resource booklet entitled Dealing with Grief, offering information about the grieving process as well as a listing of grief support groups and counseling centers in the Archdiocese.

If you have questions about these services, please call The Catholic Cemeteries office at 651-228-9991. Your Family Service Counselor can also make available to you an assortment of reading materials on dealing with grief.

 
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Previous Sample Articles from the Heritage:

"Remember the time when..."
Spring/Summer 1999
by Linda Cherek

When someone we know and love dies, we grieve the loss of their physical presence. Every cell of our body is affected. Our tears have no salt, our chest aches with a broken heart, our throat feels tight as we hold in the words that express our feelings and memories - memories that feel too painful to share.

Painful though it may be, however, sharing can help us move through the hard work of grieving. Remembering, talking and sharing can help us heal and find hope and meaning in our loss.

The power of stories

Stories, also called narratives, are fundamental to our human experience. They are a powerful means to communication and give meaning to our life and the life of our loved one. Telling stories - using narratives - powerfully reminds family and friends of the impact of their loved one's life and provides a vehicle for grief to come out of hiding and be embraced by a world fearful of loss.

Each story about our loved one has a life of its own because it is unique to the one who has died. The good times, the music and singing, camping trips, vacations, even the frustrations and disagreements - they are all part of the many-textured cloth of life, woven with memories.

We can share our grief by sharing our stories - about our loved one's life, their relationships, gifts, talents, joys and sorrows. Telling stories helps the mourner come to a deeper understanding of who that person was in their own life and in ours. Through narratives, we can find insight and greater understanding of their death within the context of their whole life. This promotes healing.



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TELLING STORIES
Some ways to get started

Create a story box with pictures, letters,mementos of your loved one. Anytime you want to feel close to him or her, take out the memory box. As you examine the contents, you will start to remember. As you remember, the stories will begin to emerge. Share them, talk about them, tell them to each other.

Celebrate your loved one's birthday with cake and ice cream. Give a donation in memory of your loved one. Talk about their past birthday celebrations, invite family and friends to remember with you.

Create a holiday memory book filled with pictures and stories about holiday celebrations you shared with your loved one.

Create a memory quilt or pillow. Use fabric from favorite jeans, ties, costumes, etc. The quilt of pillow will ve a reminder of your loved one's life and a path to conversation and remembering. Working on it together with family and friends will help the stories emerge.


Linda Cherek, R.N., CCM, MSW, LCSW, is a therapist specializing in grief, loss
and women’s issues. Linda is available for public speaking and group facilitation in grief / loss associated with death,
chronic illness and life losses. She can be reached at 651-653-3195.
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Glossary of Cemetery Terms and Vocabulary

Cremation: The reduction, through heat and evaporation, of the human body to its basic elements. Cremation is a means of preparing the human body for disposition and memoralization.

Crypt: A space in a mausoleum (interior crypt), garden crypt (exterior crypt) or lawn crypt (below ground crypt) used for the entombment of human remains. Types of crypts include single crypts, true companion crypts, companion crypts and couch crypts.

Double Interment: Single grave used for the burial of more than one remains, one on top of the other.

Easement: Printed Contract (agreement) between the cemetery and the person who is purchasing the burial rights to a grave (or graves).

Endowed Care: Part of the price from every lot or grave selection that is invested in a special fund, the earnings of which are used for the future care expenditures of the cemetery.

Funeral: Organized, purposeful, time-limited, group-centered response to death. Generally includes rites and/or other ceremonies with the body present, to commemorate the death that occurred and the life that has been lived.

Grave Liner: An unsealed concrete receptacle of two or more pieces in which the casket is placed at the time of burial, not specifically to protect the casket but to prevent the ground above from sinking. Generally made of concrete, steel, fiberglass, polypropylene or copper.

Interment Service: Those services involved in preparing the interment site for use. Generally includes such items as opening and closing the burial site, staff supervision, establishment and maintenance of permanent burial records and the use of necessary equipment and accessories.

Inurnment: Interment by placement of cremated remains in an urn in a grave, crypt or niche.

Lawn Crypt: A pre-installed cement outer container designed to hold two or more caskets and contents below ground.

Lot: Refers to more than one adjacent grave; any number of these graves could be used to make up a family lot.

Marker: A stone or bronze memorial flush with the ground indicating the name of the deceased and date of birth and death.

Memorial Service: An alternative funeral involving rites and ceremonies and commemoration without the body present.

Monument: Something designed to preserve the memory of a family member and placed either above ground (monuments) or flush to the ground (markers) of the family plot.

Niche: A space in a mausoleum or other structure used for the inurnment of cremated remains.

Pre-Need/Pre-Planning: The advance planning and payment of a family burial place; a time to study fully and thoughtfully the burial space, services and merchandise available.

Vault: A two piece sealed receptacle for additional protection of the casket and contents.

 
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Inquiries Regarding Genealogies

At this time we recommend all inquiries be forwarded in writing to:

Archdiocesan Archives
Attn: Patrick Anzelc
226 Summit Avenue
Saint Paul, MN 55102

Note: Currently, The Catholic Cemeteries is not handling these requests.

 
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Various internet resources and web site addresses